Control your Ccommunication Channels
Many marriages may have had their fire of first love put out, and their
oil of marital bliss contaminated by the external forces. Marriage is like your
electronic gadget that has a dial, you, the owner or operator of the gadget decides
what channel to tune to. Marriage can as
well be likened to devices that cannot produce clarity of both picture and
sound except with either internal or external antennae, and the direction in
which you turn the antenna determines the strength or otherwise of the signal
you would receive. But many spouses come
to the marriage institution with their external antennae permanently set in the
direction of their former friends, siblings and parents, whereas what they both
need is internal antennas positioned in the direction of the one that created
marriage and ask for his guidance and blessings.
The
onset of marital union makes you a spectacle to your well wishers and enemies alike;
therefore there must be a control on who you share your feelings with. I
advise spouses to be sensitive to comments from external sources and from their
close relations. You should withdraw
from those whose comments are not sound and fair enough to cement your union,
but rather to incite hatred toward your partner. Those who try to put asunder in
the union which God himself has created are neither your friends nor God’s friends. Those who are fond of telling you about how wayward your spouse’s people or tribes are,such people are not good enough people
to seek counsel from when the chips are down. Those who are always ready to run
down your spouse even in your presence, disguising as if in solidarity with you
over your pains and complaints cannot be said to be among people God placed in
your marital path to produce the balm that can heal your marital wounds. God is
the initiator of marriage. And we can only reach God through his only begotten
son, Jesus Christ, who also died for our sins. Therefore, anyone, regardless of
his or her closeness to you, who brings ideas of seeking other gods when storm arises in your home, have only been positioned to be instrumental to the demise of the sacred
union. Yea, marital union is sacred indeed, because it was not invented by men
and so cannot be preserved through the help of worldly and sensual persons.Therefore
when you seek assistance in sensual counselors who are completely ignorant of
the spiritual aspects of marriage, you might just have invited trouble into
your home. I also want to give a solemn warning to young couples especially the
women,who seek spiritual guidance in the home of self acclaimed prophets (whether the prophet so called is single or married).
Many innocent young spouses have ended up in the bedroom of these wolves in
sheep’s clothing, so beware! If you are a married lady, how often do you
complain to a male colleague of yours or your male boss of lack of money in your home or the
incompetence of your husband? Though you may be doing this in good faith, but I
tell you, the channel you are directing your complaints to is a wrong one, for
a bad and godless boss can take advantage of this and thus send your marriage into
the abyss. In the same token, a married man is employing a wrong channel for his
complaints when he takes pleasure in discussing the bad side of his wife with
an unmarried lady. Using any of these wrong channels means that you have made an
opening for the enemy to come into the sacred union.
nice piece.
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